Maturity or lack thereof [I'm stuck in the tardis]

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Matthew needs to grow up, stop taking things people say to heart who are a few thousands miles away.
I know just how difficult bullying can be, but i never whinged about it 24/7, i developed a thick skin and learned to roll with
the punches (i was punched and nearly knocked out in PE once, for standing upto a bully).

Though i don't consider what's going onto be bullying really.

The tale of the boy who cried wolf comes to mind. I am not amused. Not one bit.
I don't give a flying monkeys about what anyone thinks, which is why this entry is not being
friends locked etc Now i might be a little unhinged from not sleeping in 2 days, but i care little right now.

Now i return to my grumpy solace of George's Marvellous Medicine.

Mood::

disappointed

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There are 21 comments on this entry. (Reply.)

ahaha, the boy who cried wolf? me?

you are the one who posts online all the time that the voices are back and you are thinking of doing stuff. And then once everyone consoles you, you are back to normal, if you wanna attack me, then go for it. Thick-skinned is another word for pussy and not speaking your mind, it doesn't bother me that people say shit about me, i just like to reply because i am not going to stand by and let people get away with with. thats how i am, in real life too, not just in this cyber shit. so shut the fuck up kevin. i hope you are thick-skinned enough for this.

I don't want to get involved in this but that really is below the belt.

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does it surprise you? i'm the asshole remember?

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I never said that. In fact I have said barely anything about this whole thing. To imply that somebody is pretending to be ill just for attention is not a nice thing to do, and not something I could let myself ignore. To disagree over the whole CoS thing is fine, but you shouldn't make it personal.

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i never meant you said it -- but it's how i'm painted.

this whole thing started when eumelkeks posted about me solely, i responded, and kevin posted this. But yet only I get shit on.

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Aw. You're cute :-)

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why thank you, i already knew that.

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This is exactly the kind of reaction i expected.
When i post about my mental health problems, i do it for myself and nobody else. It's a way of sorting thoughts into an order i can cope with. Attacking me on my mental health problems is actually a very low thing to do. It shows a lack of maturity or the ability to have a reasoned debate with somebody. If you even understand the harsh reality of major depression then you'd have thought twice about attacking me over it.

I have as it happens developed a thick skin over the years, as i had to put up with constant threats of physical violence at school along with all the verbal bullying that went on.
You need to grow up and realise that not everyone is going to like you and that there is such a thing as rising above those who bait you.

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I hadn't replied earlier because honestly I don't think it's worth the trouble, and besides I believe you are actually quite able to deal with this, to but I just wanted to tell you that I thought that this reaction by Matthew was way low and that I strongly disapprove with it.
What a friend posts on his locked entries should not be discussed openly in unlocked entries, and even more when it's about personal reallife issues (as opposed to fandom dramas).

You are grumpy? Are you on PMS? :PPPP

Get some sleep :)

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Tbh i expected matthew to attack me in some way and i guess my mental health issues are the obvious choice. He's not the first and nor will he be the last person to do so. It's like water off a ducks back to me.

I just wish peeps would remember the message of tolerance that is threaded in every Harry Potter book. If you wanna know what depression is like just read POA and Rowling's description of Dementors. As that gets quite close to how it can feel at times (though it's a much more complicated disease of the mind depending on what type you have. I have one of the worst kinds of depression in that i have treatment resistant Major Depression, but i'm grateful for what i've got. I'm not woe is me all the time).

I have had some sleep (finally), soon i'm off to see some old school mates and then do some photography if it doesn't rain.

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That's pretty shitty. Its funny that you say he is being immature by addressing what is being said about him but you don't talk about the people being immature enough to keep the subject going. Whatever, this whole thing is not worth my time but I hate when people put down my friends when they haven't done anything to warrant it.

Matthew does himself no favours by reacting to it, then defriending people when they post or say something he doesn't like. That's not to say that some people may have stoked the fires. But really Matthew should have learned to ignore it, though it seems he likes the attention.

In grand scheme of things this is a storm in a tea cup. There are much worse things going on around this tiny planet, than a spat that developed into internet drama. Everyone needs to take a deep breath and put a line under it.

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how do I like the attention, when you are the one who write an entire entry about me? can you explain that to me? I posted once, to my friends, and then you dedicate an entire unlocked post to me

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I posted in you're journal, you did not like what i had to say (which tbh wasn't that harsh). Then you defriended me.
That made me angry, as i prefer people to be honest as to why they don't like me. Thus this post came. I could have friends locked it, but i saw no reason to. It was not done to gain attention. I merely expressed myself and allowed you to see it, out of politeness. As no doubt you'd have heard about it and kicked off.

I will say this once more - Grow up and stop taking everything to heart.

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and also, i don't defriend people who post or say stuff I don't like, the only people I have defriend on LJ have been people who have personally attacked me, or defriended me first.

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It seems that if you don't like anything that anyone has to say about you, you take it as an attack and thus the defriending begins. I guess you'll see this as an attack as well.

How bloody predictable.

*wooshes off to tweak RAW Files*

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I feel the urge to leave a comment.

But all I can think of now are those old Herbal Essences commercials where they sing, "She's got the uuuuuurge to herbal!"

That said, drama is a part of life, which sucks at times but at least it keeps things interesting. And the older we get the better we deal with it because we've had more exposure. It'll happen someday, so don't concern yourself over the ones who have yet to get there.
Like me sometimes.

Now I need to go listen to Polyethylene 1&2...love that icon.

you would feel the urge to comment. and yes, those of us who aren't mature enough, and write posts dedicated to a single person seeking to attack them (like this one we are commenting in) are so dumb.

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Several things:
1. It is none of your business if I want to comment on a friend's journal. I do that quite frequently, actually, regardless of whose journal it is and what the entry is about.
2. The original post that started this was not an attack. It was pointing out the irony of asking for more friends on livejournal only a month after you defriended quite a few people. That is amusingly ironic. That is all the post was for.
3. This post isn't an attack so much as someone's personal view on the matter. You just take things to heart more than they are usually intended, as I've come to learn in the year or so I've known you.
4. I was not replying to you. This is not your journal. I had moved past the point of having hard feeling against you or anyone else involved in the ridiculous amounts of drama of last December. However, attacking a person's mental instabilities and questioning the depth of their problem in the own journal in such a disparaging way is, frankly, disgusting. I never would have thought it in you to stoop so low.
5. In light of that, this is the last time I will acknowledge you. Someday you'll outgrow the petty urge that makes you speak instead of letting things go. You'll grow more, mature, and realize that life isn't about fighting battles - it is about picking and choosing them wisely and rising above behavior that you feel is beneath you, not dropping down in level to meet it.

And Kevin, I'm sorry I had to do this in your journal.

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2. i didn't defriend quite a bit of people for one, i defriend you and like 3 other people. I only want people in my journal that like me, hence why i am looking for people like that. i dont care if the original post was an attack, it was directed at me, to mock me.
4. I'm surprised you hold me in such esteem.
5. It's not a petty urge to make me speak my mind, thats not something you outgrow, it's who i am. I have always spoken my mind, and i always will. I will not mature out of this.

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All I can say is what the fucking fuck. And that's not directed at you, Kevin.

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